In light of the tragic suicide of 15 year old Phoebe Prince last month, and recent press conference, I felt compelled as a mother, and aunt, to say a few words about what happened. When I first heard about this from my sister, I was so disturbed, and could only imagine what her family must be going through. My sister and I both experienced this growing up in Chappaqua, NY. Back then it was prank calls at all hours of the night, verbal taunting, tearing the mailbox down, hanging toilet paper from the tree’s, and clique’s that started from birth.
Except for the newest ways in which to communicate, like texting, emails, and facebook, the feelings were just as devastating. Phoebe Prince, had moved to Massachusetts from Ireland, and faced ‘intolerable’ harassment from schoolmates for months. Insults and threats that followed her almost from her first day at South Hadley High School. She was targeted in the halls, library and through vicious cellphone text messages. Phoebe was ostracized for having a brief relationship with a popular boy, and why not, she was adorable, smart, and had a very sweet soft brogue, but after one horrific day in January, which included being hounded with slurs and pelted with a beverage container as she walked home from school, she reached her breaking point, and hung herself in her family’s home. Taunting and threats mind you that school administrators knew all about, witnessed first hand, and did nothing to stop.

9 students, who made it their mission, to start and finish each day by tormenting this young girl, and enjoying every minute. Nine bullies, most of them young girls, who now face charges in what a prosecutor called “unrelenting” bullying. Two teen boys were also charged with statutory rape, and the girls were charged with stalking, criminal harassment, and violating Phoebe’s civil rights. So, the questions become; Where were their parents when all of this was going on?!!! And how accountable are school officials, and could they have prevented this?
Barbara Coloroso, a nationally known anti-bullying consultant, was contacted by South Hadley school officials months before Phoebe’s death, and after a young boy in nearby Springfield killed himself. She spent a day there in September, training teachers and administrators on how to recognize and deal with bullying. Coloroso said school officials made mistakes by failing to stop the bullying and, after Phoebe hanged herself, by allowing at least some of the students involved to continue to attend classes, and are you ready for this?!!!!! Attend a school dance with no visible signs of discipline.
When your kids go off to school you just assume they will be safe, so how could this happen? And why didn’t school officials intervene? Whose running this school anyway?! It certainly doesn’t sound like the faculty is. Dist. Atty. Elizabeth Scheibel, who announced the charges Monday, said the events before Phoebe’s death on Jan. 14 were “the culmination of a nearly three-month campaign of verbally assaultive behavior and threats of physical harm” widely known among the student body. “The investigation revealed relentless activity directed toward Phoebe, designed to humiliate her and to make it impossible for her to remain at school,” Scheibel said. “The bullying, for her, became intolerable.”
Scheibel said the harassment began in September, occurring primarily in school and in person, with some of it surfacing in electronic forms. At least four students and two faculty members tried to stop it or reported it, she said. Massachusetts is one of only seven states without a specific law targeting school bullying, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures. The Legislature cited Phoebe’s death and the apparent suicide of 11-year-old Carl Walker-Hoover of Springfield last year in passing anti-bullying legislation earlier this month. The Legislature still needs to approve a final version before sending it to the governor, but we say cut through the red tape and get this approved now!!
Ted Mathews, a South Hadley parent who said his 13-year-old son was harassed in school several years ago, said he doesn’t understand why school administrators did not intervene. “Bottom line is, they could have done something, but they didn’t,” Mathews said. “My personal belief is if you’re going to hold these kids accountable, then you’ve got to hold these adults accountable, too. Everybody’s got an excuse, but it doesn’t bring her back.” Ain’t that the truth. A beautiful girl whose life was cut short over a boy.